Not
eveerything you hear is going to be right! These are just a few of
the frequently told lies you hear. More to come... Click on a question
to read the real deal.
Oral
sex isn’t really sex!
Having
sex will make me popular!
If
he loves me then he’ll say yes!
I’m
only 14. I can’t get pregnant.
Everybody’s
doing it!
Oral
sex isn’t really sex!
What! So putting your mouth on someone else’s private parts
doesn’t count as sex because…? Let’s just clear
the record! Oral sex is a form of sexual activity! Any time there
is an exchange of body fluids you put yourself at risk for a Sexually
Transmitted Disease. What? But I’m not having intercourse? Like
we already said, there is still an exchange of body fluids. Plus there
are some STD’s, like HPV, that can be
transmitted by skin-to-skin contact. That means that even with intimate
touching there is a risk of getting an STD.
Along with the risk to your health there is also the risk to your
emotions. The feelings of being used simply for someone else’s
sexual pleasure are not limited to intercourse.
Having
sex will make me popular!
Look, people should like you for who you are and not what you do! It’s
true that in some groups having sex will increase popularity. However,
your reputation for being easy may be more attractive to them than anything
else and when they go out with you they might expect to have sex with
you. We all know that there’s a double standard for guys and girls.
If guys have a lot of sex they are considered a stud. But if girls have
sex, many times they are looked at as a slut. Don’t ruin your
reputation for something as unpredictable as popularity.
Remember no one should ever pressure another person into having sex
Real friend’s respect each other’s right to make their own
choices.
If
he loves me then he’ll say yes!
Let’s face it, now guys aren’t the only ones pressuring
people into having
sex with them. You are just as likely to place a little pressure on
your guy and what better way than to start with the “if you loved
me…” Let me remind you that it is never o.k. to pressure
anyone into having sex. No one should do anything that they don’t
want to do. Also, if your guy is saying no then maybe he is considering
some of the consequences; like STD’s*, an unplanned pregnancy*
and let’s not forget the emotional hurt that can come later. Sure
sex can be fun, but when you are sitting at home with the baby that
came out of your fun while all your other friends are out having a good
time, you just might wish that you had listened to your guy when he
was saying that he wanted to wait!
I’m
only 14. I can’t get pregnant.
Sorry girls, but there were 507 births to girls age 14-years-old and
under in the state of Florida in the year 2001 alone.* There
are reported cases of girls as young as 10 years old getting pregnant!
Oh, and by the way, you can get pregnant the first time! Don’t
fool yourself into a false sense of reality. Get the facts and make
an informed decision. No one can make your choices for you! Consider
the cost of having sex now. Babies are wonderful, but talk to some teen
moms and they will tell you that it’s not all fun and games. It’s
not like babysitting. At the end of the night you can’t give them
back. Abstinence is the only 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy.
Click
here to find out what some girls who have gotten pregnant are saying
about the choices that they made.
Everybody’s
doing it!
Wrong! Everybody’s not doing it. In fact over 54% of youth today
are choosing not to do it. That number has gone up since 1999. This
is just something that is said to pressure you into having sex before
you’re ready. More and more young people are choosing to remain
abstinent. Check out the Guess Who’s
Waiting section to hear from other people that have made the decision
to wait.
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