Damian & Stephanie – 26 and 23
It's not easy to grow up in a world full of pressure to do things, like sex. Sex is everywhere - it's on TV and in all the magazines, not to mention that the talk was always about who was doing it. We made a decision that sex wasn't going to be everywhere in our life. We knew it would be hard but we didn't want anything to get in the way of our dreams and goals. We weren't ready to be parents or deal with the major emotions that come with a sexual relationship. We shared our time getting to know each other's interests and dreams. By spending time together, we focused on each other and what we wanted to accomplish in life. This allowed us to really get to know each other and to know that we were meant to be. We also knew that we would have the rest of our lives as a married couple to focus on sex. When we got married, we each had something that we could give to each other, our gift of virginity. Our lives would be totally different if we had taken up all that time of really getting to know each other and filled it with sex. We were definitely worth waiting for!

Matt – 27
hey there, my name is Matt, and I live in Tampa, Fl., where I grew up as well. I have been dating since the 6th grade (Mom, can you drive us to the movies!?!) and I was married at the age of 19. My wife was also 19 and we were both virgins. At 19, that may not seem like such a great feat, especially by the standards of 10-12 years ago. But the reality is that both of us had opportunities to give our virginity to someone else. We chose not to. Both of us had a commitment to God and ourselves to wait until marriage. We kept that commitment with those we dated and when we dated each other. I believe that it takes a decision in your heart and mind before the time comes to give in to sexual pressures and temptations. I hope that you choose to make that heart-felt decision! It was a great choice for me and my wife and I believe that it will be a great choice for you, too! Oh and by the way, sex was wonderful when we were first married and it is wonderful now, 8 years later!!!
Later days!

Jen and Mark – 23 and 25
Mark - I grew up in a family who taught me that pre-marital sex was wrong. We didn't talk much about sex as a whole but it was made clear that it was wrong outside of the marriage covenant. Peer pressure at school was not strong in this regard. Of course I would hear rumors here and there about what other students were doing but I never experienced any pressure to act likewise. In addition, I made sure that my friends were ones that would uplift me and encourage me, not ones who would bring me down. So the combination of these factors was a wonderful blessing God had given me. I was so busy with school and sports that it didn't leave me too much time to get into sexual trouble. This pattern continued through high school and then through college. By the time I had graduated college and started working, my own internal beliefs and convictions were firmly established. Involved in Bible studies, church, and accountability, it made it easy to continue a life of abstinence knowing that one day God would provide me a spouse in His perfect timing. And then before I knew it, that's exactly what God did. He allowed me to meet my wonderful wife in the chapel's singles group. And the rest is history. As I look back on it, I find great satisfaction in having abstained from pre-marital sex. And now I get to experience it the way God intended it. And it's WONDERFUL!!!
Jen - I grew up with a conviction in my heart to remain pure until I was married. I had this conviction through high school. But by the time I was 19, I was not walking close to God. I had this void in my life which I tried filling with worldly things. I wanted to fit in. I wanted to be liked. So I fell into the trap so many young woman fall into – the trap of wanting to be loved. It doesn’t matter if the young woman loves the guy or if he loves her. This desire comes from the void within, the void I know only God can fill. But we try to fill it by other things. This doesn’t work, I know first hand. I sought after God and I grew in him and my love grew too. When you love someone, the last thing you want to do is to hurt that person. God filled that void by his love and his presence so I did not need to fill it with anyone else. I met my husband at a singles study at the chapel and as he said, the rest is history. Sex inside of marriage is truly a gift from God.

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